The answer is, "It all depends on our resilience."
In physics, there is a formula which says:
Tension denotes the degree of stress we are experiencing in our life. It is our state of mind in any given moment. It is the outcome, the way we feel at a given time.
Force denotes what life throws at us- everyday work pressure, the circumstances, the way our situation is, the way people are behaving around us.
Resilience denotes our capacity, our coping skills, the way we respond in any given situation. It is the only thing in our control in the entire formula.
So, if we train our mind to respond in the way that is right for us under different circumstances, then by controlling the denominator we can always keep the tension at a desired level. The numerator, (force) in the formula is actually the outside force, the circumstances, the situation. So it is safe to say that numerator is never in our control. But if you know how to titrate and bring your inner coping skills to action, then the outcome (tension) is totally in our hands. We just need this knowledge to get through different situations in our life without having anxiety, panic attacks and depression.